Its ok to feel insecure sometimes,but not to a point of paranoia

Im no marriage expert,never been married--don't even know if marriage is around the corner for me anytime soon but i have my 2cents to say about insecure partners--whether in marriage or in a relationship.Insecurity is repelling--i should write that in bold and underline it.
Seeing someone who is insecure about their partner especially in a marriage is troublesome.If you marry someone and you cant trust them,insulting every person whom you supposedly think is trying to be with your partner doesn't solve anything.The root problem is the two of you,deal with each other instead of burning bridges with whomever you come across.If you asked,you might  realise perhaps that your valued significant other might be the one o o nang le mathata.Ask your partner to cease communication with their exes if you have a problem with them keeping in touch.Its a fair request and a necessary one  for you marriage to regain trust if trust issues are shaky and if they respect and love you enough they will, instead of go thokela batho ba bangwe botho. Being insulted for no reason is hurtful and even the calmest individual can turn foul if you insist on going the high way..Plus whoever is disrespectful o itiga seriti le lenyalo la  le heleletsa le  thoka seriti. Tlhomphang malwapa a lona,le ikage ka bolona,and deal with the common denominator of your problems. You took your marriage vows and you vowed to be faithful to each other.Other people did not help you say them.no one held a gun to your heads to say them.So be faithful and ensure your partner knows you are faithful if need be mme  hela if there is trouble in paradise,i would really appreciate that partners restrain themselves from the unnecessary uncivil confrontations tse o hithelwang di dirwa nkare motho o fitlhetse partnera ya gagwe e le first man or woman on earth and he or she did not have friends before they met.A civil hey, im aware you guys are friends but this is friendship is causing a strain in our marriage,would you please cease communication  with my wife or husband will likely do the trick with a true friend, mme when one decides to use language i cannot even repeat le rona re simolola go ipotsa gore tota gatwe re reng.Nne re ka go fa tlotlo,ra thompha mme ka ha o iphe seriti rona re go reng .
If the partner seems to be straying deal with it,don't be soo blinded by  jealousy that even people with no ulterior motives are drawn into nonsensical issues,le mo bomogoloe,cousins and just friends are suspected of other unnecessary things. Botho-courtersy-buthu in whatever language you call it,is a fundamental principle of every home-self control likewise--so not being able to handle issues like an adult one is left wondering whether you are even worthy to be paid attention to ha o thapatsa  mongwe le mongwe. 
Probably today's blog sounds like a vent,it is.