Why you can't ask a guy out :(

ok,so i was saying,we live in the 21st century right,where there is liberation of women,equality and jab jab all that new stuff we claim to be promoting in third world so we can look like we moving towards first world status..we have women leaders,people who on a daily basis take initiative to bring about new stuff into society.we are taught from an early age that if you are hungry you speak out.if you want a banana and not an apple you dont just sit back and sulk and expect the people around you to prophesy your needs,...this is true for most things like food,and clothing and all those things,but my sisters,don't ask a man out.its society's unwritten rule.apparently ''gatwe o isa status sa basadi ko tlase if you do'' ---(ie you are degrading the status of women in your society ) now,don't ask me how,i am not SOCIETY.do i agree with them.NO.

 i am clearly an alpha female,never been the kind to just wait for things to happen.i go after what i want.if i believe this year i should have a book out,i will hunt  publishers down,i will write that book,an di will get it published and in stores,btw my Poetry book Heart for rent will be hitting African shores soon,for those who have been asking,coming all the way from the UK.so you see,my innate nature is to go after what i want,its not necessarily a bad thing considering i am the first born of  a good number of children and i assume leader role naturally,i should be able to take the lead.however when it comes to dating life,the advice i have gotten is to be submissive,be passive,men like a passive woman.i tell you,it is hard to pretend to be what you are not...taking the back seat  like you are Queen of something when tota tota you are used to be the taxi driver navigating .and since i am a person who likes to ask why a lot,this why i find it not satisfactorily answered.women must wait for a man to check them out,you have more class as a woman,it is our culture,you do not degrade yourself to begging status...but truthfully i don't see it that way,i see it as an assertive trait. i mean, if you know you are 5 feet with an IQ of 100,and are a yellow bone ,and you want to mix those genes and up your game by asking a 10feet 140 IQ  tall,dark and handsome self confident guy out,i see you just applying the theory of survival of the fittest in your life.you are simply making the choice that unlike you,your offspring will not be denied the chance to win Miss Botswana because of lack of height,and you are putting them at a greater advantage over the others by giving them a ready made genetic pool of brains..so why do we degrade women who ask for what they want.is it because we have our own little insecurities,or our subconscious cultural minds will forever remain  a huge part of our judgement?

I think it would be great for the guys once in a while to take a back seat status and let the women do the work,experience what it is like to face rejection,and how hard coming up with a pick up line is,and also why some guys do all those crazy things to impress women on the first date like borrowing your old lady's BMW 7series to impress a chick you just met and still claim you want a chick a who loves you for yourself and not your money ...anyway that is another topic for another day ..

.tsatsing jeno im stressed--my sleeping days are over-totally over---going back to school on Monday --mind you i love school,but i just happen to love my sleep more--i don't sleep in class though,i just close my eyes a little and visit places that my brain can only go to--im Totally totally joking-i  have never ever ever dozed off in class :)

BTW i think i finished my 20 movies of all time,last time i blogged about them i was at fourteen i think,so far i watched  Olympus,Yes or No, a lot of ,coffeee house,a korean drama series and also a series called intersexions--not  movies but still counts cause it took just as much time and i highly recommend both....What's your number,The Shwashank Redemption,Akeelah and the spelling Bee ,Philadelphia-my fav actor D. Washington stars there and there is one about a woman with no law degree who manages to win a case about some water ,cant remember the movie tittle,its hard but it stars Julia Roberts.,so yah my list is complete now :)

DAY  1 Donate clothes You no longer use	DAY 2 Give away some  books you don’t use	DAY 3 Volunteer at a shelter	DAY 4 Write prisoners letters-I feel guilty about a letter from a prisoner who once wrote me and I never replied	DAY  5 Walk from Champ Fleurs to Trincity and back
DAY 6 Go  fishing	DAY 7 Go ice skating	DAY 8 Learn sign language	DAY 9 Learn to say “hello” in 50 languages.	DAY10 Learn how toBelly Dance
DAY11 Pay for someone’s lunch-my house mate is such a nice person,i bought her lunch and she decides to get back at me with ice cream :)	DAY12 Finish the  fiction in my online library	DAY 13 Start  a happiness project	DAY 14 Make a difference in at least one person’s life.	DAY15 Write and publish a novel
DAY 16 Audition for makeup modelling	DAY 17 Gain a Readership of over 10000people by December 2013 for The SEED magazine	DAY 18 Uplift someone’s spirit	DAY 19 Graduate with distinction Jtough one	DAY 20 Get my blog to 10000views by Novemeber 3 2013--so far we are at 1819-thanks a lot for passing by
DAY 21 Create enough passive income so that you don’t have to work another day in your life.	DAY 22 Live on 25tt a day for  25days--trying everyday...not a joke i tell you	DAY 23  Get an ideal 4bedroomed home	DAY 24 Visit a mosque	DAY25 Run a Marathon
Day 26 Learn how to apply eye liner, and eye shadow	Day 27 Try a new hair style You have never done before	Day 28 Rehearse and recite poetry in  front of an audience	Day 29 Buy myself red roses and share them till I remain with one	Day 30 Watch the top 20 movies of all time