Mara,these days my brain is getting too opinionated,it scares me jah,but its the years man,di ile dingwaga--the years have flown by so fast i didn't even see them--ke THE FLASH to 25--being 25 and female is like living your life and knowing your sell by date is getting close in the marriage industry.seriously.men can go single up till they are 50 and 120 years and still get marriage proposals,don't shake your head in denial---it is true-nxu stru,ka mme ruri-we don't like to admit it but its true,the more stable a man is in life the more attractive he looks when it comes to settling down...that's why even in the 1800's, thank God it was 200 years ago and i was nowhere near being born,old men married youngsters,even today,just google millionaires and their wives,you will fall out of your chair from surprise but honestly it makes the whole idea of providing for a family a lot easier---
when you have been working for a decade and you get a younger wife,she will definitely be happy with the money you bringing home,anyway that is not the issue i want my multiple personality brain to tackle today--btw if i offend you--just blame it on one of my more opinionated brain cell personalities-no hard feelings--sometimes the views i write here are not my own,just stuff my crazy brain thinks about ---sometimes i don't say things i mean and sometimes i mean things i don't say.so yesterday,i nearly said today cause i haven't slept since yesterday, i watched a tv show about marriage,(yah,i do watch boring stuff like that, if i want to be a good doctor i read,if i want to be a great cook i read,so i figured this reading stuff and watching stuff probably applies to all areas of my life, so i do read about marriage from time to time and try to understand it from the male perspective,i do want someday to walk down the aisle with my price charming and have a shrek kinda of fairy tale--the kind that lasts forever ever ever ever after the marriage excitement dies down--even though in bots we will probably be walking down an aisle covered with phate-red carpet is a western phenomenon unless you are at a prestigious place the rich get married at,ha o itswela Nzwazwi jaaka nna jaana re go shapa ka phate e be re tswa mo dilong-just don't tell my future hubby,incase he plans on walking me down that aisle on a red carpet neh-)
ok back to my tv show,the host was trying to get the opinions of black men on what makes a black brother settle down,one thing i liked is the sharp honesty this guys were bringing to the table,they called a spade a spade my sister,sorry if u are a guy reading this,mara u must understand that this are mostly convos i will normally have with girlfriends,don't you?
one question that stood out for me was, would you want your daughter to date someone like you,it got me thinking..am i the kind of girl i would want my son to date in the future,if i ever have a son that is.honestly ,i don't know.i do cook,and i do it quite fair fair i think,i mean its not 5star material but its pretty good stuff,and its not stuff you would pretend you enjoy only to go out for a burger later,so yes i do cook.i don't wash clothes--the washing machine does that ---well at-least for now,in this place you survive with a washing machine-it rains 24/7 -3 times a day,its really crazy--so i cant give myself any points on that --and i think i am a kind person,you know and yah i have been told i am wife material--im not sure what that means but it sounds like the kind of girl you would want to show off to your mama as the poetntial MRS,kana jang--if its not hit me with a definition in my inbox..
--on kindness though no one ever says they are lucifer--we all see ourselves in rose painted glasses--so i cant judge if i would want my baby son to bring a girl like me to our home someday...
but,back to you,cause this was never about me in the first place, would you want your son or daughter marrying someone like you.do you treat your better half the way they want you to treat them,are you considerate,kind,humble,giving,generous,faithful,have a listener's ear and all that stuff people say they look for in a partner, before they settle down, are you the virtuous kind my favorite bible verses talk about ,you know the Proverbs 31 kind?
on the other hand,being 25 and working your way towards a beautiful career and hopefully you know a good marriage and some kids is also like being a one off item on the shelf-in demand and highly valued so for all my sisters in the same league,lets do this career thing with our self respect patting us on our back,cause it is no way easy-when everyone around you says when you finish school all the brothers will be taken don't panic--the good ones will wait for you ---especially if you are married to medicine or law or any profession where you are still trying to find your two feet before you receive any sort of salary keep your hopes up and know God is in control all the time..no need to rush--his timing is always the best :)
Peace with a ganster sign :)
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